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Have you ever been caught up in a thought that will not let
you out? Escape is not an option. What was a simple drip in
your pool of thoughts, quickly turned into an ocean of
tidal waves rolling into each, over and over again.This is
what it feels like to not have positive control over your
mind.

Our minds often repeat hurtful thoughts or scenarios over
and over, even when we'd much rather let them go. If you
start really listening to your inner voice, you are
probably dwelling on the past, remembering how someone may
have let you down, or how much anger you still hold back
from being hurt. If you fear the challenges that are waiting
for you, or you are ashamed at where you are now in your
life as compared to where you had planned on being, these
fears will definitely be in line to play the mind game on
you. All of these insecure or hurtful emotions that you once
tucked away will come back to play when the game begins.
Only when they come back, you will not recognize them. This
is your first bad move. Now the mind game begins.

The game is of the mind, to confuse you in your thought
process. When your mind is triggered even slightly by a
word, a picture, or even a look, what we want to do is to
think positive, nice, sweet and safe thoughts. If you have
the slightest opening in your mind, the game will begin. It
will take a thought and wait for your first emotional
weakness. Then it will twist that thought and magnify it so
that it feeds on that weakness and sends you into that ugly
world of negative thinking.

You would give anything to shake off these negative
thoughts, but we all know so well that it's easier said than
done. Instead, you struggle through your day feeling like
you are a freak and that if you do not get a grip on this
mind game, and soon , you will explode. All that you want,
is to be free of negative thoughts and be happy all the
time.

You spend a lot of time thinking over negative feelings
and sulking over regrets and misfortunes. The worst part is
that the more you try to end this horrible game that twists
your brain so tight, the worse it gets. You will try to
avoid your hidden shames and worries, or drown them with
alcohol or drugs. All that happens when that little fix-it
ends, is that the mind game becomes stronger. New thoughts
continue, the game attacks again only to turn those thoughts
against you. You can feel them escalate into negative
scenarios in your mind, but at this point powerless. The
power of the game is winning and you are now in the
believing stage of the game. Your mind now believes your
negative thoughts. You are forced to react, and through this
reaction the mind game soars and takes over even further.
Now it not only controls you, but it has also taken control
of your entire world and whoever is in it at the time. You
collapse from the draining feeling of failure once again.
You feel that you will never be able to win this mind game.
You feel that you will be a pawn for the rest of your days
on earth. A doormat and a bug to stepped on over and over
again, because of your inability to gain strength and take
control of your positive mind. So why not just give in? Why
not just bow down whenever you fail to think positive
thoughts? Well, I will tell you why you do not want to do
that!

You are a human being with a heart and a brain. You were
given the ability to feel emotions. Emotions such as:
self-respect. self-esteem, humor, love, laughter, sexuality,
self-confidence, but most of all, you were given
intelligence and the will to survive. You were given the
gift of life. Those are the reasons to fight. How to fight,
is also right there in front of you.

You are already aware of the mind game. Most of you have
played it so long that you should be the champions by now. I
have talked about habits many times and I will keep talking
about them. Through habits you can defeat many of those mind
games. Try to simplify your thoughts. The stronger the game
tries to twist them, the harder you work to shrink them.

I read about an interesting way to look at this. Think of
your thoughts as a pop-up ad on your computer. You see it
and then you don`t. Or it pops up and you simply delete it
without giving it a second thought. Even if it was a
negative pop-up, you spend no time at all analyzing where it
came from, you simply carry on with what you were doing.
This is a good way to play, and win the game. Also another
way to play and win, is when your thought begins to twist
through the negative game, start to vocalize it. Sing it
quietly to yourself, or hum outloud. This will confuse the
game, and throw it off track. Immediately when you get a
thought that seems to be fair game, think of something very
funny or a very sad movie that made you cry. A very good
habit is to change your thought track. The game cannot keep
up when the track is jumped. Be aware that your mind is a
game field, but you have to play it in order to win. If you
do not play, you will lose by defeat. SAD!!! So my words to
you is this : KICK IT`S BUTT!!!!!!!

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It is your imagination that constructs

the limitations you see,

so use imagination

to get rid of them.

- Anonymous

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If you act like you are a powerful person,

then powerful things will

happen to you!

-Jane Eldershaw


About the author:

Dorothy Lafrinere Owner/Operater Website- www.womensselfesteem.com Forum- womenselfesteem.proboards29.com

This is a question that most people grapple with from time to time and it has largely been on my mind this past week.

You see one of the best people I know -- my Uncle Carl -- had a very bad accident this week. While working on the wood lot with his son, his hand got caught in a log splitter. In the end the damage was so severe that his left hand had to be amputated.

Although no longer a young man, my uncle is very active and enjoys working with his hands. He is right handed but clearly the use of two hands was an important part of his former life and just as clearly that will have to change.

I was devastated when I heard the news and am still shaken by it -- even more so when I think about how much worse the accident could have been. My whole family is upset, especially Uncle Carl's wife and children, most notably my cousin John who was with him at the time.

As I worked through my worry and grief I kept asking myself that question: Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?

I know people often say this when tragedy occurs, but this is not simple lip service -- it is fact. My uncle is a good man.

He is a very strong family man who is still married to his high school sweetheart. He loves his four children as well as his grandchildren and great-grandchildren. He was a devoted son when his parents were alive and is loved by his siblings, nieces and nephews. He and his wife opened their home to many children and young people over the years and continue to open their home and hearts whenever family, friends, or community require it.

He has worked hard all his life -- using his hands to service the land and master machinery and using his broad shoulders and strong muscles to complete every task set before him.

He has played an important role in his community serving as a volunteer firefighter as well as a cornerstone of his church congregation.

Yes, he is a good man, but his life has not been easy though and I had to question why one more burden needed to be added to his heavy load.

Many Christians will say that God sends us trials to test us. And there might be some truth in that. Many of us are stronger than we think and it takes difficult challenges to make this clear. But I didn't think this applied to my uncle -- he has had many challenges over the course of his life and I think he has a good handle on his own strengths.

However loss also highlights what we have and perhaps have taken for granted. Yes, my uncle has had a difficult life but he has also had a tremendously rewarding one. I don't think there really is much that my uncle wishes for or envies in others. Yes, his siblings may have more money and professional success, but I am confident that Carl would not trade his wife and family for that money any day of the week. And I secretly suspect that if he did in fact have more money that it would be spent in large part on his loved ones.

And he is greatly loved by a great many people. Not just by his immediate and extended family but by the many people whose lives he has touched. I know there are prayers on his behalf winging from coast to coast. I don't think he'd trade that love and the respect that accompanies it for all the professional success his siblings have enjoyed.

We can grieve with him for the loss of his hand, but we can't pity him when we look at the many gifts that God has given him.

What is more, when you step back and take a look at the man he is then you do not even notice the missing hand. He is so much more than the simple sum of his parts and in the end it is the size of his heart that one notices most.

It is important to note that it was his right hand that was preserved -- the very hand he has extended so many times to others to offer love, friendship, and help.


About the author:

You can enjoy more inspirational articles by Deanna Mascle at adviceforlife.net, bestinspirationonline.com, and daily-quote.net. Submitted with Article Distributor.

Self motivation is something many of us find hard. We know what we want but we just can't seem to get motivated to do anything about getting it. But, if you're going to get to where you want to get to, you need to be a visionary thinker and not an idle dreamer.

Too many people dream of the life they want but are unable to be any plan of action into getting that life. We all dream. Dreaming is the easy part. But how to change a dream into a vision - a vision that will propel us in to that life?

Many successful people have the ability to role-play the life they want. They may not be where they want to be, but that doesn't stop them from acting out the life they want; the life they know, one day, they'll have. The ability to do this is important. Many of us are rational thinkers, and know that we could make every aspect of our 'dreams' come true, but we take absolutely no action towards making any of them likely to happen.

We can all learn a lesson from watching children. All children learn about themselves and the life they're going to live through play. They simply play at being the person they want to be; a doctor, a teacher, a scientist, a mother. They use props around them to act out the life they going to have. They will show everyone one around them, the husband they going to marry, the car they're going to have, the new worlds they'll be the first to discover. I'm not suggesting that we all revert to playing like children, however role playing and vocalising our future will helps us. But why does acting out our dreams make an impact on our motivation?

Firstly, it helps us to feel some of the pleasure and enjoyment which the realization of our dreams will bring. It has been shown, time and again, that we are much more likely to achieve goals which trigger strong emotions in us.

Secondly, role playing implants unforgettably inspiring, vivid images in our subconscious. Even imaginary seeing is believing.

By expressing your vision, you turn your daydreaming of mixed up, meandering and unconnected images into lifelike, linked and solid visions. Your visions will be lifelike, linked and consistent; more like a believable documentary than a whimsical fairytale. The more you believe in your goals the more likely they are achieved. You can use the picture power of your imagination to fix a vivid, detailed, inspiring image of your desired future in your subconscious mind.

We can also use our visionary thinking from the past to help motivate us for the future. We can use the wisdom we have gained from our life and re-apply and re-kindle the dreams of our childhood and youth. Don't be afraid to recollect those grandiose dreams. By honestly re-experiencing the dreams and aspirations of our earlier life, we can confirm that those dreams of yesteryear are, at heart, the dreams we carry in our heart today. But now we can use our experience to find an acceptable compromise.


About the author:

Robin O'Brien is founder of a website and who is pursuing a journey inner self discovery. You can visit his site to read many more self improvement articles.

You've heard it said: "Love is patient and kind." If love is patient,
it may be because love is truly understanding.

Do you know what the most common craving is among pregnant women?
(I'm sure this is factual.) The most common craving among pregnant
women is not spicy food, pickles or ice cream. Not even close. It is
for MEN to get pregnant.

Why? Because then they would know what it is like! Then they might be
more patient. What most women need during times of cravings,
discomfort, swollen ankles and morning sickness is... understanding.

Much of our conflict is simply misunderstanding. As a new bride, one
woman moved into the small home on her husband's ranch in the
mountains. She put a shoe box on a shelf in her closet and asked her
husband never to touch it.

For 50 years he left the box alone, until his life partner was old
and dying. One day when he was putting their affairs in order, he
found the box again and thought it might hold something important.

Opening it, he discovered two doilies and $82,500 in cash. He took
the box to her and asked about the contents.

"My mother gave me that box the day we married," she explained. "She
told me to make a doily to help ease my frustrations every time I got
mad at you."

Her husband was touched that in 50 years she'd only been upset enough
to make two doilies.

"What's the $82,500 for?" he asked.

She explained, "Oh, well that's the money I've made selling the
doilies."

Marge Piercy beautifully said, "Life is the first gift, love is the
second and understanding is the third." But it is love that gives us
life and understanding that brings about love.

Making doilies might take your mind off the problem, but it won't
change anything. The path from conflict to love is not by way of arts
and crafts. It is through the valley of understanding.


About the author:

Steve Goodier is a newspaper columnist and author of numerous books on personal development. Visit his site for more information, free eBooks or to sign up for his ezine newsletter of Life, Love and Laughter at LifeSupportSystem.com. Submitted with Article Distributor.

Our society has changed over the years. One area that bothers me is what people refer to as the term ‘politically correct.’ In the past, no one thought about saying, “That offends me.” so you have to change to make me comfortable. “You can’t sing the traditional Christmas song or say a prayer in public places.”

We can go on and on today about how people’s individual opinion has changed our society. In my opinion, our society today has become sterile and dull. If we go back to the building of our country, people flowed here from every country and helped to build the greatest society the world has ever seen. Each person brought with them their dreams, their desires, their traditions, and families.

They worked hard to make a life for their families. Today, we’ve seeing this attitude change. People are demanding instead of giving. There are a few who are demanding we cater to their feelings. So they won’t be offended, the few are demanding we not share our traditions. They shout this ‘offends me so you all have to change.’

Every action and thought has a dominoes effect in the universe. No one can offend you and it can’t be forced on you. It is a choice. When a few people demand everyone changes so they can feel comfortable, they have offended the majority.

Everything, we do is governed by a law and effect follows. If everyone demanded society changes so they won’t be offended, chaos would rule. At times, I think it almost there. We all have heard of these people in the news.

Every time, I’ve heard these people speak. The same attitudes convey from them. They emote unhappiness, selfishness, low tolerant, and small thinking. Thanks to our courts, we are catering to people who chose to be unhappy and selfish. We all know someone like this. Without thinking, we want to avoid them because we don’t to get sucked into their unhappiness.

We should be celebrating everyone’s differences, traditions, their dreams and hopes. It will bring so much happiness. You don’t quite know how to take it all in. Celebrating in others joy, dreams brings what you want from the universe in your life. When you take the time to learn and understand someone else’s traditions. You understand each other’s beauty.

Everyone is special. Most traditions show people’s history or what’s important to them. It builds self-esteem to have traditions. It helps to know where your roots come from in life. Those of us who don’t have them wonder around in a daze, wondering who they are.

The few who scream, “I’m offended,” are truly the offensive people. Our courts are catering to them. The downside of this attitude, it teaches children to be bigots and low tolerant of others.

I decided to create a website where people can talk about their traditions and share them. In hopes, it will teach us all to be tolerant of each other differences. We should be cherishing them and not shoving them in a closet. Join me and let’s talk about why we’re so special and what makes our lives rich. I’ve yet to see a tradition that doesn’t make sense.

I was taught in school as a little girl and have found it to be true: “You don’t know a Man until you’ve walked a mile in his moccasins.”



About the author:

LaRene Ellis is a young adult author with six children. She has written a new science fiction/fantasy series called Stones Quest. You can go to her website at www.LareneEllis.com regarding personal growth, positive thinking, and success quotes. You can read how she overcame her past from growing up without parents and siblings.

It’s true. You can’t really get what you want in life until you have given it to others. Doesn’t sound like it makes much sense, does it? How can you give what you don’t have? As you open your mind to the possibility and ask this question of yourself, you allow opportunity to come to you and knock at your door. Then you will find a way that it is possible to give to others what you want, before receiving it yourself.

It almost sounds like a chain letter and in a way it is. The chain letter is a facetious reference as so many of us have been exposed to them by now and know they are illegitimate scams. Yet the basic principles are: you give before you receive, and you give with the faith and expectation of receiving. A similar modern example can be seen in the film ‘Pay It Forward’. By giving to others, you allow good things to happen to you. And this all boils down to the simple law of attraction.

The law of attraction is like any other law of nature, like gravity. And like gravity, it is not one that has been generally ‘discovered’ yet. As a result, most of us are walking around thinking in a completely disordered paradigm.

Disordered paradigms of thought are displayed over and over in history, and discoveries of natural laws and observations of reality have brought order to transform the mistaken beliefs that had been accepted for fact. You can think of many examples, such as the belief that the world is flat, or the belief that we are at the center of the universe. Or the great changes that resulted as a discovery of the force of electricity and harnessing its natural power.

In this same way, we are able to make a change in our own disordered thought patterns. Right now 99% of us are probably dissatisfied. Dissatisfaction means larger life is seeking to be expressed through us, and it is being blocked. Self-sabotage is a very real process working in the invisible realms of the unconscious mind.

The good news is there are a lot of simple, small but powerful techniques you can use to reprogram that all powerful unconscious mind of yours, to order your own life as you want it. Yes, there IS a way to eliminate the chaos in your life, and it starts within. It starts by eliminating the often unseen chaos in your own mind.

The technique in this article is only one of a vast array that you can use on a daily basis to improve your life dramatically. In this article you are learning how to use the law of attraction to attract to yourself what you want.

The law of attraction, like gravity, is undefiable. You will attract what you are sending out. Your thoughts are real in the world of attraction.

If your mind is resonating with patterns of anxiety, stress, anger, sadness, envy, grief, or any other negative emotion, you will be attracting more of the same in your life.

One step you can take to change this is to focus on giving to others before you receive yourself. In this way you are changing your vibration and your focus. And you open yourself to receive what you had been closing off before.

It is very simple to give. Give of what you have, and everyone has something to give. We all have innate value to offer the world. An abiding philosophy in the law of attraction is to always offer an increase in value, to give back more in value than you receive in money. In this way you continue to give more than you get and attract more and larger life back to yourself.

Take a moment to look within and find something, anything, no matter how small or simple, to give to anyone, friend or stranger. Start the practice of giving, and you will take one step towards raising your level of vibration and enhancing the value of what you attract in your own life. Give something selflessly today, knowing that you will receive it multiplied back in your life, tenfold.

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Carina MacInnes is an author and entrepreneur who offers a powerful way to increase both health and wealth in your life. See her site here: imagineacai.com She is also giving away an e-course with awesome wealth secrets by her favorite mentor. Receive it now: mailto:milliondollarsecret@robotreply.com

I believe one of the obstacles that keep people from succeeding is one very basic fear:

The fear of making big money.

Not just fear of making money... but the big moolah.

If you don't think that is a fear that is stopping you then you analyze those rich people closely.

Some of them feared making money because their parents were not high earners. If they made more money than their Father, they reasoned, what kind of son or daughter would they be?

Sounds crazy but this is not what we want but what this is what our sub-conscious mind is reminding us.

Others fear that making big money would 'change' them somehow and they would not be the same person anymore- the same person that people know, love and care for.

True story:

I have a friend whose friends are no longer close to her anymore because she has grown to be more successful than them. She has become a 'bigger' person now.

They start to pick on her like...

"She thinks she's the only person busy with her work."

The truth is... she is BUSY with her work and building a strong financial support but her friends don't have that kind of being busy privilege.

And they'll look for her weaknesses to find chances to pick on her.

Are her friends bad? Not really. They're just reacting towards 'change'. Instead of responding, they're reacting.

They'll feel...

"She's not the same person anymore."

Yes, she chanced to be better and wiser.

So if she changes to be more successful, she'll fear that her friends might not like her they way they used to.

That's just one example.

The fear of making big money is REAL. It's in your mind and the only thing that is moving you is YOUR MIND.

However, you may not believe you are influenced by this fear because it sounds really silly.

But think about it for a minute.

Maybe what you really fear is 'change'... and if you made big money it would change you and your life.

That is why most lottery 'millionaires' end up spending or losing most of their winnings a year or so after they've won... they seek 'normal' lives again where nothing ever changes.

It's not hard to make big money... the hard part is giving yourself permission to make it and keep it.

Yes, I said give yourself PERMISSION to start making big money.

The game of becoming rich is an internal one... just like golf, or becoming an Olympic athlete. The problem is inside us... lack of confidence and self-esteem are the enemies.

Don't let fear of making money stop you. Start believing in yourself, check your self-esteem and make a wise informed and profitable choice for your future.

One of the way to solve this is by using... an anchor.

With an anchor, you have the power to do a simple act and you'll instantly be able to eliminate that fear of making money. Sounds interesting, isn't it?

No, this is not trying to use affirmation. It's scientifically proven to work. The 'technology' for using anchoring is introduced in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).

This is probably the fastest way to change your emotions instantly.

I'll show you how to experience 'success'.

Think of a time when you have a very successful experience. It can be when you get number #1 in any competition.

It can be an experience when you beat Your competitors to be a winner.

It could even be when your wife agreed to marry you!

Now focus on the feeling of success you have experienced last time. Pull out the memory of how it felt like ... to be successful, to be on top of your game.

Engage that feeling. Are you feeling it?

I know it's hard while reading this article but you'll need to practice it if you want to know how it works.

See yourself when you have achieve success, hear the claps and cheers, remember the smell of room where you're winning the prizes and feel it.

Then it's time for you to create an anchor at that exact moment of time.

Many types of actions can be an anchor for you.

You can twist your ear, move your fingers 5 times, clinch your fist 3 times, rub your hands together, make an arm swing or just do anything you can think of that can have a special meaning for you.

This anchor will be engrossed with the state you in. And the state that you're in at that moment of time is when you're experiencing your successes.

The more passionate or lively the experience, the better anchor you will create.


About the author:

Patric Chan is an author, international speaker and founder of the "You Chan Do It! Personal Achievement Newsletter of eSuccessMastery.com. You can get his latest success tips and strategies to achieve your goals quicker and easier for FREE at his blog: www.motivatedforsuccess.com